Assertiveness is a way of thinking and behaving that allows a person to stand up for his or her rights while respecting the rights of others. Nonassertive people may be passive or aggressive. Passive individuals are not committed to their own rights and are more likely to allow others to infringe on their rights than to stand up and speak out. On the other hand, aggressive persons are very likely to defend their own rights and work to achieve their own goals but are also likely to disregard the rights of others. Additionally, aggressive individuals insist that their feelings and needs take precedence over other people’s. They also tend to blame others for problems instead of offering solutions.    Assertive attitudes and behaviors are at the heart of effective advocacy. A person with an assertive attitude recognizes that each individual has rights. These rights include not only legal rights but also rights to individuality, to have and express personal preferences, feelings and opinions. The assertive individual not only believes in his or her rights but is committed to preserving those rights. An assertive attitude is important in recognizing that rights are being violated. The passive person is so concerned with being liked and accepted that he or she may never recognize the need to advocate. The assertive person clearly expresses his or her rights or needs. They tend to face problems promptly and they focus on solutions rather than problems.   The following will enhance your assertiveness skills.  Assertive listening is one of the most important advocacy skills we will discuss. The goals of assertive listening are (1) let the other know that you want to understand his or her point of view (2) understand accurately what another is saying (3) let the other know that he or she has been understood. Remember that understanding is different from agreement. You can understand what another is saying but still disagree with him or her. 

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In Atlanta, New York and Brentwood, the demographics of Anger Management Practices are changing from Court Mandated Defendants to self-referred couples, individuals as well as well educated middle and upperclass clients who are excited over the possibilities available from Anger Management Coaching for skill enhancement in emotional intelligence.Many of those enrolling in anger management coaching are more interested in increasing empathy, stress management and assertive communication rather than managing anger or aggressive behavior. In many ways, Anger Management Coaching is actually skill enhancement is emotional intelligence which includes Self-awareness, Self-control, Social awareness and Relationship Management.At least part of this change in participants is related to the fact that legitimate Anger Management Facilitators use Pre and Post Tests to objectively determine the areas in which participants score in the deficit range.

At the request of many potential anger management providers worldwide, Anderson & Anderson is planning to launch it’s internationally recognized 40 hour Anger Management Facilitator Certification On-line beginning Sept 10, 2010.

This curriculum has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, NBC, CNN, ESPN, BBC, New York Times, Los Angeles Times, San Jose Mercury, London Times, Baltimore Sun Times, Toronto Star News, and NPR. The Anderson & Anderson Curriculum is used in all states in the U.S. as well as Canada, Guam, Puerto Rica, Japan, Germany, Cayman Islands, Bermuda, Philippines, UK and Australia.

According to Google/trends, Anger Management is one the fastest growing intervention is human services. This model is evidenced based with a Pre and Post Test making it excellent for use as a lucrative income stream for non-profits as well as psychotherapists in private practice and social service agencies. Anger Management is clearly inflation proof. 

To enroll in this or any of our on-line classes, please visit our on-line store at www.andersonservices.com.

  George Anderson

Anger management coaching, based on the four popular domains of emotional intelligence, is being effectively used for marriage and divorce relationship/mediation issues. Anger Management/Executive Coaching was originally developed by Anderson & Anderson™ for use in the assessment and intervention of JCAHO defined “disruptive physicians”.

Individual Executive Coaching/Anger Management clients are beginning to request couple coaching for skill enhancement, in self-awareness, self-control (anger management), social awareness and relationship management. These are the four domains of Emotional Intelligence and do not denote psychopathology or marital conflict. Mental Health Professionals who discover that their clients are exhibiting deficits in self-control, stress management, empathy or assertive communication are referring these patients for this new non-psychological intervention of Executive Coaching/Anger Management.

Couples seen in dyad Emotional Intelligence Coaching are each evaluated using the same comprehensive instruments that are used with individuals. The same client workbooks, DVDs and ancillary skill enhancement material used for individual clients are being successfully used with couples.

Many of these clients have been unsuccessful with the traditional channels of marriage counseling or psychotherapy. In contrast to counseling or psychotherapy, coaching for Emotional Intelligence or Anger Management does not carry the same stigma currently experienced by those who are patients being treated for nervous or mental disorder.  Rather, it is a skilled-based intervention designed to enhance emotional intelligence.

Sandy Harris, CAMF

Anderson & Anderson Executive Coaching/Anger Management

We are enormously pleased with several new developments in Anger Management and the Anderson & Anderson Curriculum.       

• The Anderson & Anderson Affiliate Program is paying big dividends for those who are signed up to market our programs and services. If you have a functional website, please visit our On-line store and signup. You will receive 30% of all sales made through your website.         
• Sixteen CEUs are required for all Anderson & Anderson Certified Anger Management Facilitators each year. Providers who do not fulfill this requirement will be removed from our provider list as of January, 2011. Please visit our site and sign up for one or two of our scheduled live classes or purchase Home Study classes from our online store.         
•   Our blogs are now the largest producer of hits to our website. Therefore, we urge you to link up to our website from your blog. If you do not have a blog, do yourself a favor and create a free blog through Word Press. Do not worry about content right away-we have hundreds of past posts that you may use. Please take advantage of all of this free marketing material! 

Below is our most-recent blog entry. It’s a great post to either add to, or start your own new blog:

 Beautiful Brentwood Residents Are Making Anger Management Cool!

One of the best kept secrets and newest trends among the beautiful trend setters of Brentwood, Beverly Hills, Santa Monica and Bel Air, CA is Anger Management Coaching provided in a confidential one on one coaching format.

Wives, partners and significant others are requesting that their mates take advantage of Emotional Intelligence based Anger Management Coaching to increase empathy and assertive, rather than aggressive communication, while learning to manage anger and stress.  Parents of college students and teenagers are also funding anger management for their offspring. 

Suddenly, Anger Management Coaching is becoming a badge of stature among those considered members of the popular “IN” crowd. The real key to this new popularity appears to be the value of Emotional Intelligence in increasing one’s well-being and interpersonal skills. 

George Anderson, MSW, CAMF   

Even the Internet needs help in learning the differences between Anger Management and Conflict Resolution. Anger and Anger Management is related to useless anger. This anger can be directed towards persons or property. It does not require a dispute between one or more persons.In contrast, Conflict Resolution relates to disputes between one or more persons. The Resolution of the conflict requires that all participate in resolving the dispute. The dispute may or may not involve anger.

George Anderson, MSW, CAMF

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One of the best kept secrets and newest trends among the beautiful trend setters of Brentwood, Beverly Hills,  Santa Monica and Bel Air, CA is Anger Management Coaching provided in a confidential one on one coaching format.

Wives, partners and significant others are requesting that their mates take advantage of Emotional Intelligence based Anger Management Coaching to increase empathy, assertive rather than aggressive communication while learning to manage anger and stress.  Parents of college students and teenagers are also funding anger management for their offspring.

Suddenly, Anger Management Coaching is becoming a badge of stature  among those considered members of the popular in crowd. The real key to this new popularity appears to be the value of emotional intelligence in increasing one’s popularity and interpersonal skills.

George Anderson, MSW, CAMF

Anderson & Anderson Executive Coaching/Anger Management 

If Anger Management  is seen as a program to increase skills in Self-Awareness, Self-Control, Social Awareness and Relationship Management, any time is the right time for skill enhancement in these areas. Generally, most self-referrals to Anger Management Programs are persons who are highly interested in skill enhancements in these areas. It is worth remembering that anger is a normal human emotion, which is exerienced by everyone from time to time. Here are five specific signals that will tell you when your anger is creating problems for you.

1).When it is too frequent. There are many situations for which becoming angry is justified and natural. But, we often get angry when it is not necessary or useful. It is important to distinguish between the times  when it is alright to be angry and when getting angry isn’t a wise idea.

2).When it is too intense. Anger is something that occurs at different levels of intensity. A small or moderate amount of anger can often work to your advantage. High degrees of anger rarely produce positive results and may damage your own physical health.

3).When it lasts too long. When anger continues over time, you maintain a level of arousal or stress that goes beyond normal limits. When anger does not go away, your body’s systems are prevented from returning to normal levels, which makes it easier to get angry the next time something goes wrong. Sometimes, it becomes impossible to resolve.

4).When it leads to aggression.  Aggressive acts are likely to result in trouble for you. When you feel you have been abused or treated unfairly, you may want to hurt the person who has offended you. Verbal aggression, like calling someone a name, is not helpful and often leads to a cycle of increasing aggression.

 5).When it destroys work or personal relationships. When your anger interferes with doing a good job or makes it hard for people to relate to you, then it becomes a problem.  Anger Management is, by far, the most appropriate response for developing skills to manage all of the situations mentioned above.

A recommendation of a recent mental health report from the Office of the U.S. Surgeon General (U.S. Public Health Service) is its emphasis on prevention and health promotion. The Surgeon General, in a clarion call for prevention initiatives, stresses the importance of psycho- educational interventions in the community for a range of problems. Anger Management

is one such intervention,  notable for its wide applicability to a variety of constituencies for both primary and secondary prevention.  For example, Anger Management techniques are needed desperately by teachers, probation officers, correctional staff, counselors, community leaders and parents.

Community sites such as schools, social service organizations, churches, libraries, and social clubs provide convenient venues for workshops and classes. For some individuals, improved health may be an important incentive for participation.

A recent study at John Hopkins University found that most men who experienced heart attacks or strokes had problems managing anger. Thus unhealthy anger has serious health implications and needs to be addressed proactively.

Sandy Harris, CAMF

Anderson & Anderson Executive Coaching/Anger Management

The strategies which appear below, are the keys to managing anger and increasing emotional intelligence. They can and should be referred to when focusing on, or practicing positive skills of interaction. They are also a quick reference for recognizing styles of speaking,  aggressive behavior, and habit patterns that make healthy relationships

George Anderson, CAMF